Dating men with daughters
While every dating relationship or "courtship" may not end up in marriage, it should result in growing closer to God and building each other up in the Lord.
Without a God-driven purpose in dating, too often, our youth and young adults will be caught up in the emotional and physical pulls that are naturally there.
Some days will go smoother than others, and you may find yourself toggling between elated and exasperated at the start.
To love someone with kids is to open your heart up that much more to the possibility of an insta-family, and everything that comes with it.
I let the cards fall where they may and go with my gut when it comes to chemistry between me and another person. If you elect to date above your generational boundaries, it’s a reality and one that recently became mine.
The math in putting 1 1 together is hard enough; it’s an equation we spend our whole lives trying to master until at last we form a solid pair. I met someone amazing, and at the same time, met his kids (also amazing). Now, some time later and armed with a better understanding, there are a few things I wish I’d known from the get-go that might have spared me some serious mental struggle: It sounds aggressive, as though I’m telling you that dating someone with kids will ensure you’re always treated second-rate, never coming first and always neglected in some aspect for preferential love to the young ones. The kids will always come first, yes, but if he’s a catch and you’re lucky, you’ll score second place.
I recently shared with my older children that most marriages are defiled before the man or woman have a chance to say, “I do.” In one prominent online study on dating, over 80% of the respondents indicated that they would consent to sex prior to marriage.A healthy situation, where everyone is respected and boundaries are in place is the best you can hope for, and it’s then up to you to decide if you can handle it or not. You are the only person who needs to feel comfortable with your decisions and if you do, you won’t give some ignorant onlooker the satisfaction.An ex fades into the background of your past while an ex with whom you share a child will always be in your life. That racist old lady shooting daggers on the subway in “Save The Last Dance” is probably the only aspect of that movie that reflected real life. It’s not just about him; he’s got other (little) people to consider.Dating someone with kids when you still feel like something of a kid yourself can be a challenge.To some (myself included), age ain’t nothin' but a number.